When you have all grown-up and your parents that are still alive, you know that they do not get any younger, and at some point in your lives you, as a child, will start to think about the best choice for your parents to grow old.
Of course, a great number of elders live a long and somewhat healthy life just by themselves, but that does not mean that your parents do not have a possibility of getting some serious physical or health diseases. In any case, as a concerned child, you need to think about different possibilities.
As statistics say, 90 percent of people older than 65 years old want to spend as much time living in their homes as possible. But that does not imply that they do not have any conditions that need to be thought of before making a decision regarding a place of living.
Take as much time as you and your parents need before choosing the option that would fit your situation the best way. And while you do that, we want to tell you a bit more about renovating the home of your parents to fit their needs.
We know how hard it is to decide on this issue, as sometimes, what is best for the health of your parents is not the choice upon which they would agree. And to make the other possibilities not regarding a nursing home more feasible, we made this article.
However, before going into that, think long and thoroughly about your own capabilities, budget, specificities of parents’ health conditions, and so on. Those parents that have some little troubles with memory or physical condition can stay at home longer than those that, for example, have some difficulties in regards to movement.
To make this decision-making process easier, we are now going to provide you with a list of the advantages and disadvantages of each of the choices you have. The decision is yours, but we think that this information may help you.
This option is the most undesirable by parents, and by their children (at least in most cases). Being a caring child, you would only choose nursing homes in severe situations, when your parents can no longer be left at home or when you are not able to take care of them due to some reason. And of course, bigger amounts of money would be spent.
However, if this is your case, please be very gentle with your parents when explaining what is going to happen.
What might help to ease this process is the following:
This is the option that we think lies in between the other ones, as it is the following:
In this case, some renovations are necessary: not only for your parents but also for you, as they will make a new way of living much more convenient and comfortable.
When deciding on choosing this way, please try to avoid your discomfort regarding talking with the parents, as they are going to adjust to a new way of life just as you are, and for them, this process can be even harder to psychologically accept: no one likes to feel old and helpless.
What might help in this situation is talking not only about the process but about some advantages as well. For example, grandchildren will spend more time with parents, and the children as well, which will help you all to better connect with each other.
In addition, many seniors have their own daily routine and personal things that are dearest to the heart, and you would not want to break their usual pace and style of living. Try to compromise with each other!
A few disadvantages
Some disadvantages are that you would need to spend more time and effort now, as you have another person to take care of in the house. This means less time for yourself and your partner.
Also, some psychological discomfort by the thought of overcrowding the space can appear but do not worry, it will go away once you all get used to each other’s company. If not, some hired help may ease your burden, and many elderlies actually like to be left alone for quite some time of the day.
This option is the most preferable by the parents, as they get to live where they are already comfortable, where not a lot of changes need to be made.
Think about upgrading their house to meet new needs, as this will save you money on nursery homes and treatments in cases of some accidents. Moreover, when parents are completely comfortable in their home, they have lower chances of getting depression or anxiety connected with aging and being more vulnerable than before.
It is only logical that you would not want your parents to somehow hurt themselves when being inside the house, so modifications are the right choice for this option. Look for some suggestions that we have below.
As we have already understood, aging cannot be as pretty as we have imagined: eyesight is getting weaker, coordination is not as good as it was before, health problems start to occur more frequently, and so on.
To make the lives of your parents much easier, here are some general tips for you:
Basically, make any of their everyday actions safe, fast and easy, so that they would feel more secure, comfortable, and less depressed.
When it comes to parents with some health troubles, more steps need to be made aside from those described by us above, as more than 35 percent of seniors have some serious conditions.
Some of you might be afraid that remodeling the house in such a manner is a job worth a lot of money. However, it is not always the case, and not all of the products are that pricey. In any case, all of them described by us will serve you for a long time, so it is always better to spend money once than every couple of months. Now, let us talk about more specifics.
It is quite a widespread thing for seniors to lose their memory ability with time, and forgetfulness becomes their usual characteristic. What you need to do is help your parents prevent any gas leaks and floods.
Here is what you can try:
If this is your situation, what you need to think about is preventing threats from intruders, injuries, and fires.
Here is a list of ideas for you:
In this case, your main concerns are connected with falls and slips.
To avoid that, here is what needs to be done:
Most seniors have balancing problems when aging, especially those with bad eyesight and arthritis.
It is up to you, as their children, to prevent any unnecessary falls and slips, and what can be done are the following steps:
Aside from some health issues and tips for remodeling with them in mind, there is a lot more you can do for your parents.
For example, try to persuade them that everyday cleaning of the house is a great idea, as it lets them move around more, as well as prevent an occurrence of any allergies. This simple task can increase their physical and mental well-being and help to create a great routine.
Another thing that they can do is a regular inventory of their foods and medications so that they would not eat or take any expired products, which also can cause some additional visits to the doctor.
However, physical problems are not the only ones with which elderlies are faced. Mental issues, such as the feeling of vulnerability, loneliness, or even depression, are common things among seniors.
To escape that, they can participate in some group activities, such as that of elderly homes, where there are a variety of events happening almost every night. What they can also do is sign up for some swimming or reading clubs.
You can also participate in making their social life more varied: try to spend some evenings with them, simply eating dinner and talking, watching films, reading books, or going through some old photos. Try to involve grandchildren as well.